Commitment honored

~ meximinnesotana

I am really proud to say I delivered on a commitment to myself that I had made back on June 8th, just before my vacation. My deadline to communicate was July 3rd, and I made it happen a day earlier.

I took a deep breath, scheduled the conversation yesterday with my boss in the morning and completed the conversation in the afternoon. I explained my plan to leave the company as of August 3rd and my intention to do independent consulting work after a break to pursue some family time and personal projects. He told me that he will always support any decision that I know is right for me, even if he does not like it (which of course, he did not, and he admitted that).

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I had written the points of the conversation ahead of time, and was able to convey 3/4 of what I had drafted. For me it was not critical to say all of it, but I wanted to have my explanations “in the bag” so I would not be dissuaded. He could tell by my tone of voice and the fact that I titled the meeting “decision” that I had already made up my mind. He did not try to change it.

He did want to talk with me later this week so we could map out a communications plan, to be sure that team members understand this was my decision, not related to company decisions or the budget we were allocated. I understand his concern: last year, there were a couple of non-voluntary transitions (which resulted in other positions within the company for the two people affected). People get nervous if they perceive that their jobs are at risk.

For now I am breathing a sigh of relief. I am grateful for his response, and for all the opportunities I have been given here. But I also realize that this is a strong signal of my commitment to the next venture, and now I have declared (to the universe effectively) that I will make this work. No matter what.

Do you honor commitments you make to yourself? What do you do when you are scared by the commitment required to move yourself forward toward a goal?

 

 

 

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MexiMinnesotana is a clinical researcher by day; writer, reader, yogini, meditator, and social agitator in her free time. Married with two cats, and an abundance of good people in her life, she nevertheless would like to preserve her privacy for now.

15 thoughts on “Commitment honored”

  1. Wow, congratulations Cristy! I admire your resolve! It must be so nice to breathe that sigh of relief. I’m gearing myself up to leave my job at the end of the year, so I can completely relate. I now just need to decide on a date to do it and a way to do it. I love what you say about honouring a commitment to yourself. That’s how I will need to view my resignation – something I’m doing for myself. If I don’t view it that way, I know I’m likely to start thinking about how my boss and colleagues will feel about the decision and the ‘inconvenience’ it will cause them!

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  3. Great news, many congratulations! To answer your question “what do you do when you are scared by the commitment required to move yourself forward toward a goal?” – I do it scared. As Georgia O’Keeffe said: “I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing that I wanted to do”. I wish you every success in your new career, Cristy.

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  5. Congratulations Cristy! The time between finding your solution and actually marking your claim can be quite stressful. I know how that weight is relieved once your conversation is complete. Reclaiming your life on your terms will be worth it in the long run.

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