One of my favorite meditations from Insight Timer is by Anna Guest-Jelly called "May I Know What I Know." It involves a body scan in which we are moved through body starting with the feet, and moving to each region. After the exercise, we consider if there are any places we could not feel, that … Continue reading Inviting yourself back
I have written before about the idea that there is no "better" you - that self-acceptance and self compassion are the key to any big changes we want to make in our lives. Paradoxically, I think we all grow, develop and change over time, and we do become "better" at certain things. It is not … Continue reading Embodying a new self
I love early mornings, when I sit with my coffee and write, sometimes with a cat on my lap, sometimes just with a few fresh ideas in my head. After a good night's sleep, my mind is clear, and sometimes the remnants of a dream come forth. Very often I forget them right away, and … Continue reading Why do we crucify ourselves?
I am a little embarrassed to admit that Christmas Eve this year I indulged in an "adult tantrum" about all that I had committed to do to prep for the holidays. It wasn't pretty. My hubby and I had been sick with colds during the week, so we were behind our usual holiday preparations, and … Continue reading Adult tantrums
We are often taught that going "outside our comfort zone" is where the most growth happens. I believe this is true, to a large extent. Our human species evolved to seek comfort or pleasure and avoid pain. These impulses largely kept us alive, along with developing communities which could provide protection and safety in a … Continue reading Un-buffering your life
To those of you who are waiting for your blogs to be perfect to publish them, here is some advice I got originally from Brooke Castillo of the Life Coach School podcast. Do B minus work, but get it started ahead of time. It echoes advice I have received from other authors like Anne Lamott and Brene … Continue reading B minus work
Did you grow up being told "not to hurt others' feelings?" Many of us were taught that we should not say things to hurt other's feelings. By extension that meant we are responsible for other people's feelings. It was a pretty radical discovery for me last year when I learned in more details how thoughts … Continue reading Emotional adulthood